When things aren’t working out like they should


“There she is.” The young woman from the back seat of my rental car pointed out the window.

“That’s her again,” my daughter agreed.

And with that I begin to share the moment I didn’t expect to get on a recent visit to see Daughter at college.

It’s been six weeks since she launched. Since she started sharing a small dorm room with the sweet girl in my back seat.

I bit — as both Daughter and Roommate craned their necks to watch the mystery girl head the opposite direction our car was traveling through campus.

“That’s the roommate that wasn’t,” came the explanation from the back seat.

“They were going to be roommates, but the other girl dumped her before they fully committed,” Daughter added. “And now we see her all over campus.”

The world has changed.

At many schools today, kids pick their freshman roommate. You go on an admitted student Facebook page, post your profile and look for someone to room with.

Match.com with nine-month consequences.

Thank goodness I didn’t have that kind of power.

Would’ve never had the wisdom at 18 to pick Sandra, with whom I was matched and who remains one of my closest friends today.

Six weeks into their freshman year, Daughter and Roommate appear to have made a fine choice in each other.

Scratch that — phenomenal.

They are best friends. Inseparable. Navigating the jungles of freshman year and all that goes with it. Together.

Those reports I’ve been hearing since dropping daughter off.

This, though, was new information.

“Wait, you mean you weren’t her first choice for roommate?” I asked Daughter.

“No, and that girl wasn’t the only one who didn’t work out for her,” she said.

“You mean, you, perfect roommate match you, were actually like 10th choice?”

“Pretty much,” Daughter said with a laugh of the sort you can only laugh when you know the rest of the story. When you know things worked out great.

“Can’t mess up the right one. Can’t make the wrong one work,” I declared sharing one of my top life tenants.

Have you come to realize this, Dear Reader?

Surely, you, like I, have done your share of chasing.

Chasing a relationship.

A particular job.

A certain house.

You chase.

You clench.

Because surely you know exactly how things are supposed to work out for the best.

Only you don’t.

Not really.

They work out like they are supposed to.

I now add roommates to the list.

Daughter’s been dumped so many times because clearly, there was one perfect match for her freshman year.

Can’t mess up the right one.

Dear Reader, if it seems at this moment that things have not worked out, I offer: It’s possible you’re in the “Roommates Dumping Me” phase.

They’re still working themselves out.

Let that proverbial girl keep walking the other direction.

The right one is on the way.

And you won’t be able to mess it up.

Not when it’s meant to be.



Reader Comments ...


Next Up in Local

Good Samaritan Hospital closing: Community angry, devastated, concerned
Good Samaritan Hospital closing: Community angry, devastated, concerned

The closing of Good Samaritan Hospital will be a crippling blow to the west Dayton community and raises several concerns going forward, said three people who represent the hundreds of residents living near the 86-year-old facility.  "We're behind the eight ball," Minister Daria Dillard Stone, 66 and a member of the Mount Carmel Missionary...
Xenia police, US Marshals arrest suspect who evades manhunt this month
Xenia police, US Marshals arrest suspect who evades manhunt this month

A 33-year-old Xenia man who evaded capture, which led to a manhunt in Xenia, was taken into custody by Xenia police and the U.S.  Marshals. Charles E. Dameron was arrested Wednesday night without incident, Xenia police Capt. Alonzo Wilson stated tonight in a news release. Dameron will be facing additional charges as a result of this arrest, Wilson...
Hippo Kiss: Fiona’s smooch on canvas can be yours
Hippo Kiss: Fiona’s smooch on canvas can be yours

In celebration of the first birthday of Fiona — the premature hippopotamus who beat the odds and captured hearts around the globe — fans will get a chance to win a one-of-a-kind “Hippo Kiss” painting, and become an official Fiona parent. The Cincinnati Zoo & Botanical Garden is marking Fiona’s first birthday with a special...
Greater Dayton RTA buses could be rid of cash fares by 2020
Greater Dayton RTA buses could be rid of cash fares by 2020

The Greater Dayton Regional Transit Authority hopes to modernize its payment system and get rid of cash fares by 2020, officials said Wednesday. More than half of RTA riders have migrated to passes, including monthly and weekly passes, said Mark Donaghy, CEO of the agency.  The agency will work to become the first major transit authority in the...
Pastor: Community ‘in shock’ after news about Good Samaritan closing
Pastor: Community ‘in shock’ after news about Good Samaritan closing

Hours after Good Samaritan Hospital officials announced Wednesday that the facility will close later this year, reaction about the community impact has been wide ranging. "It's devastating news, I was shocked" said Daryl Ward, pastor of Omega Baptist Church in Dayton.  His church is just down the street from Good Samaritan Hospital,...
More Stories